When the victim becomes the villain

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At first blush when reading this New York Times story, many will assume what happened to this Marine is an exception. Male-on-male sexual assault may not be as common as males sexually assaulting women; however, because it is so deeply buried for reasons so eloquently described in this story, we are not able to determine the magnitude of it. 

What we are discovering with the Catholic Church scandal is that it is more significant than most assume. The commonality of sexual abuse, whether it is male - on - male or male - on - female, when the victim comes forward, the predator attempts to turn the victim into the villain. The most recent example of this is what Bill Cosby attempted to do with his victims. The outcome of this is also common, which is the victims blaming themselves.